Lower EXPECTATIONS: If there is no such thing as "the perfect family," then how can there be such a thing as "the perfect family Christmas?"

• Identify disappointments that you have during the holidays.
  
• Realize that people will disappoint us and that most people don't change.
  
• Realize "family" has many definitions and shapes - accept and celebrate that which is unique about your family.
  
• Realize we can't be everywhere, do everything and please everyone.